Is it the Man's Responsibility to Carry Condoms Because He's the One That Has to Put it On?

The above question was asked on a friend's blog page. When I responded to the question, I found myself saying a lot more than I expected to. So much so, that I felt compelled to make it somewhat of a "Safe Sex PSA" here on my blog.

So ... here's my answer to the question:
Is it the Man's Responsibility to Carry Condoms
Because He's the One That Has to Put it On?

The problem here is that we keep making these situation, man/woman or black/white issues, when in reality they are PEOPLE issues.

When a person - MAN OR WOMAN - is getting themselves ready to go out for a night at the club, they know damn well right then and there if they want to "get some." So ... instead of expecting the other person to be responsible enough to carry condoms, people should be responsible enough for themselves & be prepared.

And as for the whole "I don't want to look like a slut" line that a lot of woman give, that's just a B.S. cop-out! If a woman is going to go out and know that there's even the possibility that she's open to "getting some", chances are - unless she already knows the crowd she's going to be with - she's going to be amongst strangers. If she meets a dude who she's infatuated with enough to go to bed with that night she should be prepared!

Any man who says that it's the woman's responsibility is straight punk. It is a man's position in life to take the lead. A man SHOULD make it his responsibility to carry condoms BECAUSE he does have to wear it, but more importantly ... and here's where it gets REALLY REAL ... because he's on the hunt. By far and large, dudes aren't getting dressed expecting to fallin in love at the club. He's hunting.

A man (or woman) going out to the club without condoms is like a hunter going out into the woods with his rifle & no bullets or with his bow & arrows. If you want to bring home the prize, you had better leave home with what you need to do so.

Again, this is a PEOPLE issue! Not a man or woman issue. Each person expecting to engage in sexual activity bears the INDIVIDUAL responsibility to protect themselves and the other person - even if they only "care" about that person for one night.

That one night could be all that's needed to start the beginning of the end.